I know name calling is bad in any form, but that is so mild. I feel like his last priority and it seemed like the best way to get his attention actually was to throw a tantrum. If you have a loved one on the Spectrum, please check our private MeetUp group. I know this post is literally YEARS old haha, but I stumbled upon this blog and it has been helping me, because I had a very close Aspie friend (I am NT), and have recently gone through very similar stories to everyones here. I lost everything including me x, My Aspergers partner walked out on me and our 2yr old son last week but before hand we was talking about our future together, he made me a love song which he sang on his hands and knees, he took me to expensive restaurant to treat me But then he stayed out at his parents where his dad is dying from cancer and he came back in a mood with me, I asked him for hug and told him I had missed him he pushed me away and said he doesnt want a hug from me and that it feels weird touching me and that he cant take it no more, he put that he was single on Facebook I give him something to eat and left him alone, next day he woke up he didnt calm down over night instead he got his clothes and left us and went back to his parents and now hes saying he doesnt love me or want to be with me but if this was true why did he do all that he did for me just the other week before he left. Few weeks after we reconnected and decided to start over again. So much tension We needed a break from one another. That was one of the most devastating experiences of my life I have ever had to go through, as I really love and care for and miss this person, but this really solidified for me that something is off emotionally in his brain. Its insanity to me. This page has made me realize there are others like me and it is somewhat comforting. I am also friendly with two women at work she is friends with. And if there is a issue forget it hes on the attack then shuts down. Its been two months and as much as I love him, I know hes capable of doing this again when any conflict arises. Not everyone with ASD takes this narcissistic path, but when they do it is devastating. Reiterated that his depression is not my problem I felt alone all the time, even though he was phisically there. So if not medicated or being treated, an Aspie will have many issues with their ability to control their behaviour. Its a challenge. he looks at me when I go shopping with track suits on and says if there is the smallest bit of paint on them from Decorating your not going out like that are you? My biggest problem is once he hits a long enough period of time of childish silence by the time hes done Im done! How can he just shut off after being so intimate. He refuses to look for a job and plays video games all day, because he won't look I have to stay at my current job which I hate instead of going back to school like I want to. Fast forward to Thanksgiving when I was cooking (plus the expense of it all) for he and his kids and he brought a bottle of wine he knows I wont drink and even said, I know you wont drink this. I communicated to him that I was feeling like he doesnt see a future with me. The more I went towards him, the worse it got, the more I couldnt do anything right, the more I became the enemy. However my old wounds from my mother and so fearful it would end I definitely think I sabotaged that relationship or he was just a charmer but the point being that when my husband was in jail I was bombarded with letters, calls. I am so happy I came across this thread. Lets take a look at that word, with for a moment. When we met despite some quirks from he and me as well we connected on a deep level and things were going well. He demanded me to leave his room, I did nt, he leant over me and screamed in my face to get out. Armed with this info, I told I was sorry I hurt his feelings. My husband its his way and the wrong way . It is going to take me awhile to pick up all the destruction he left behind.. he has caused us so many problems .. to me it is not worth staying or fighting because they cant change long term.. they are who they are.. we will be the ones that have to change everything to be with them and Im not interested in spending the rest of my life on egg shells.. you should consider the same.. you will live a life of constant rejection.. nobody deserves that.. Im reading the comments, all of them are close to my reality and yours is the closest. I didnt realize he was AS at the time, I overlooked a lot of his behaviors and just thought he was different, but after seeing this drastic shift in personality, mixed with all the other quirks and traits, I knew 100% he had it. Run. Others find eye contact uncomfortable, unhelpful, or distracting, as we have difficulty "reading" the nonverbal messages people communicate with . Stop idealising themthey cannot changeever. My aspie husband still miserable having left but refuses to look at his own behaviours or get help . Run! I find out a few days later he was still talking to his best friend. Offer help and tell that person you are there for them, etc. He calls my family horrible things and he talks about me being an Aspie as if it were a terrible thing. I had this for 12 years it is hell, she was oblivious to the pain she was causing and thought it totally acceptable not to talk to me for weeks and sometimes months. We have members from around the world meeting online in intimate video conferences guided by Dr. Kathy Marshack. I have been with my asperger boyfriend for more than a year now. Poor . Every day that you navigate the social world and do it beautifully - reminds her that she is a failure. They would always say yelling is not abuse but I think thats wrong. well my happiness only lasted 2 months after we had a great night, dinner movie, wine we even joked around. He Never existed. He is cold doesnt talk and does not listen and is super anxious all the time . We returned back home, (live separately) and since then his told me to have time apart to think this through. Navigating communication with her sometimes feels like an impossible minefield, but one that Im willing to try to navigate. I guess that is what this is???? It all makes sense now. I said I wanted to work things out with him. I have a friend and over the corse of just a few months we became very close. For the neurotypical: Eventually, things started to get weird. YOUR HEAD. NTs tend to be very dramatic when expressing emotions which feels like they are being manipulative. 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I love her but there is nothing left between us and it all started with those pills. He has a son with Aspergers. Hyde. It's not easy being an aspie in an NT world. He supposedly had many stalkers, told elaborate stories and his exs were supposedly all too needy or crazy (red flags I wish I noticed early on). I was a nervous mess. ) If youre a member of the group, please register for the call to discuss The Silent Treatment on Thursday, October 6, 2016 at 2:30 PM or Thursday, October 27 at 3:00 PM. Once he told me she doesnt believe psychopaths exist, that it is an illusion. I'm NT and he is undiagnosed but has so many Aspie traits like stimming and odd fears and disappearing acts and obsessive working on computers and a brilliant mind that works in strange ways. He on the other hand after giving me years of the silent treatment, treating me with contempt on and off, mainly off, mood swings, temper tantrums, has found his newly setup business has thrived in lockdown and rented himself a beautiful house and moved all his stuff out and ended our relationship saying we would be both better off with someone else! I was everything to him, love of his life, you name it. Can he learn better relationship skills? Even though he says we are just different and that nobody is wrong, and that we get along great and have a strong connection, he refuses to talk or work things out. February 3, 2021 / 1:08 pm (MST) (Our pets are our children). So much of the blog and comments resonate with what is happening in my own marriage. Ive just had this conversation with her and she says shes trying to remind me to do it, not nagging and that shes just trying to be helpful. 4 4.Why Do Aspies - Wives and Partners of Aspies - Aspergers; 5 5.Aspie Shutdown and Withdrawal: Dealing with Sudden Emotional 6 6.Aspie dumped me out of the blue - why so sudden? I sent him an email yesterday trying to communicate with him that I now understand how he is wired, without mentioning any autism disorder. It still crushes the heart and mind of the NT who wants connection and peace. I wish I would have yielded to the red flags and told him, NO! How likely is this to skip generations??? It is very difficult to change the mind of a black and white thinker. Truly ignorant, not self aware at all. It's challenging to be on the NT end to say the least sometimes, but the blog post and all the comments really helped shine a light on a lot of things for me. For the aspie: There was that first big fight that happened. I just scheduled a video appointment for you in early February. It was too good to be true. Blowing up is very normal when you are in an intolerable situation. Im going through this with my fianc right now. Thank you for your question. Well see. It started way too intense (from his side), Idk but maybe he lovebombed me, he would take me to the best restaurants, have best dates, talk everyday for hours he invited me to meet his family. I have done and said everything to meet my partners needs. If you can get out, do it. avoid certain activities or expectations. Complimented me constantly. Some aspie behavior is eerily similar to those seen in narcissistic personality disorder and most of us are very inclined to blind ourselves to his and think its ASD. I sometimes feel his a narcissistic person, but then I remind myself his an Aspie. It didnt even make any sense to you why you were fighting. They had no judgement about what most would consider to be broken or weird. Hed go to work, game, shower and sleep. This is the third month since then and nothing. He says Im such a good person he doesnt feel like its fair and I deserve someone better than him. Marriage and children will bring out more of the issues. Stroking their Ego. He is very high functioning. Ive been married for 35 years, and cant take it anymore. And sometimes he will shut down and while being silent send a news article to me about something funny or relating to my likes. Once you take the course, you can join our online community. Its been almost a week since the last trigger and I dont know what more I can do. She just turned 36 in December. next month will be 5 long years married.. 2 weeks ago we were putting offers in to buy a home.. 3 days later after we didnt get the home ,I woke up and he handed me divorce papers. Hope you are well whatever happened. We are divorcing. Kathy, I am the NT in the marriage with the man who I love dearly. He went into his shell. Im confused. The silent treatment from your autistic daughter is a symptom of a mental illness and a terror she feels that she is not normal. I have decided to move on from this because I want a fulfilling relationship but its so hard. Also, be sure to read Our of Mind Out of Sight: Parenting with a Partner with Asperger Syndrome (ASD). Your depression and anxiety were all-but-cured. Your kids will figure out Dad is different, but the rest if the world will never see the whole picture. So you guessed it. I go between empathy and feeling like a victim of narcissistic abuse. They are not good at hiding lies but they are good at confusing you so you no longer know which way is up. Your words resonated with me that I obliterated him. I feel helpless and hopeless and so frustrated wanting to give him respectful space and yet wanting so much to talk to him and try to convince him otherwise. Again it all seems one way and him not taking consideration of my feelings etc.. Each episode just makes me want him less. Which I said to him once and he blew it all out of proportion. My husband worshipped me. If you are please check out the power and control wheel and see if there are any groups on healthy/unhealthy relationships in your area.his behaviour sounds emotionally abusive. We were supposed to have dinner at his parent's the next day with my family as well and he still wanted to go through with that. He loves me, just not right now. I suffer with panic attacks and anxiety and feel like my feelings are invalid and completely alone when he triggers me. Once I gave them an attitude and they tried to tone police me, although they were just talking to me like that too. I think anything before that was just "strong attraction" or a crush. This is simply not true. But that doesnt mean I will love every choice she makes. Being that we work together, I am extremely hesitant to reach out. Ive been in a relationship for 9 months and besides being incredibly smart, hes been giving me the silent treatment for 2 days. We spent the night together and next morning he was different. It is hard to hear that, feels a bit simplistic and sad after 9 years of being together. Be kind to Yourself. Hes arrested again. She's keeping this private. Sometimes we have to quit to solve a problem. Next time I want to look at the role that Depression and Self Doubt plays in causing aspies to back off on relationships. I know he will always have Aspergers but I really do believe he has the capacity to gain knowledge to deal with some of the symptoms in a healthier way. I can see how destroyed he is when he comes out of an episode. Then, friends. Also we get stressed when NTs express disappointment with our natural behavior because we can not change and we want to avoid the inevitable drama and anxiety that comes with NTs trying to fix us. Be yourselfstop toning it down..because you cannot as you say keep it up. Thats why Mark Zuckerberg made a fortune with Facebook. Of course blowing up is no solution, but it is a symptom . It has nothing to do with you in particular. She said no, and later that day asked me why I asked. Im not really sure if I am overreacting, but I get worried whenever he behaves a certain way that makes me feel uncomfortable and worried for him. After seven months of making my BF feel amazing (as he put it everyday), I literally got flowers one time on my bday and told I was pretty only on that day. The last fight, he ignored me for 3 days and he went back, he said he wont do things like we did before anymore, then he start to "stay cold" to me, spend less time than before, not even a video call or share thing together, i'm trying to get him back, gently with him, encourage him but i'm not sure if it work :(. Everyone was shocked. Was he an aspie? Its just really sad and scary and hard. Is it hard to date an autistic man? The dynamic is pretty much the same as narcissism difficulties. It got me nowhere. I was in a relationship with an undiagnosed Aspie. I know they dont mean harm but they are harmful to me. Very hard on himself. Yes, its true that they give up very easily and run, when we would hang in there and work it through. In the beginning things were amazing. I think its either because they had one parent not on the spectrum or parents who did not teach by example these behaviors and held them to higher standards. Ill listen. Vicky, I hear ya!! Just exhausted. With Aspie, its a lack of awareness and understanding which leads to aggitation ending in .. disappointment. Weve been on a roller coaster ride since our eldest was born. Trying to be the best mom to a very aware daughter and stay involved with other aspects of my life. I was completely caught if guard and told him he wasnt making any sense. We both have a high iq, me 130 and he 165. Common ASD symptoms are motor coordination challenges, delayed decision-making skills and problems with executive functioning (those higher-level thinking skills, like multi-tasking). I hear ya sister! I started to read a lot about it, especially when I was down and needed an explanation for how he treated me. He can't understand that people need to express their wants and needs so that the other person can try to meet them. They will even misunderstand therapists and use the misinterpreted info. We are in a long distance relationship for 1,5 years. Love is like a drug, and you dont want to become addicted to the wrong person. : r/aspergers; 7 7.Why . You also have the option to opt-out of these cookies. I found that simply leaving him alone helped him to sort things out so I would let him know I was going to go out and just go shopping, take a ride, whatever to keep myself busy and give him space. My confidence is rock bottom, i can never imagine meeting or trusting anyone again The problem is we are living in a middle east country and I dont think the specialists here are good enough to detect anything like that especially given that my husbands masking abilities are highly advanced and he is a perfect convincer. One of the problems is that sociopaths and aspies can present similarly on the surface. My anxiety is in overdrive and Im scared to keep bombarding him when I know this might push him away but I also need answers and some form of communication. Its very important to know that bad behaviour is not tolerated, no matter the difficulty. Like he said, this is how he is. He also gave me the silent treatment the who day. The sophistication and intricacy of dating aspie man nightmare these simulators continued to grow. He cant just put his wife away on hold while gaming takes priority all the time! You'll feel better too, it just takes some time. That's how they think adults are supposed to behave. Maybe thats why I started to pull away. We where only married six months we had no sex and he never cared for hugging kissing or any other romance any help would do older woman older man. Often the silent treatment is an attempt to quell ones emotional distress, even if it comes off as abusive. I forgive him for that but i often notice him lying about something to me. If he is unwilling to work on developing more interpersonal skills, you will always feel alone. Common symptoms of Asperger's that may impact social interaction or communication include: Problems making or maintaining friendships. Healthy Professionals may either agree or disagree. Escaped after only a few months of dating and thank god no marriage / kids. I dont underestand why I love her, But I do, And I dont want to lose her Im so tired. When the Aspie shuts down, we must be VERY c l e a r and basic in our terms. I get an apology yet days later it starts again. As it was the first time happening in my life it left me shook then angry so I broke up with him a couple of days later. I try to keep that in mind that they are NOT being vindictive but just the stress and ASD wiring causing the shutdown and silent, avoidance treatment. I was so confused, but after 3 painful months once he had time to think about it, and during a break so he had time to think (because he's normally quite stressed and busy) about it, he realized what he had done, and then he came back and tried to help me through all the pain that he had caused by all of a sudden just closing up to me. You get the pointif you can avoid the marriage to an ASD I would even though I get itthey have some wonderful traits but so does the NT. Nothing was wrong ( that I knew of) he is hyper critical at everything I do, it has to be done his way or its wrong. No wonder they need time alone. You quickly made up, and there were a lot of tears from both of you. he always thinks of others and never forgets my birth day. I am sorry you are suffering. He went through all of our savings had a meltdown that lasted for 12 months and then wanted to come home. I didn't think it was a good idea. Again I said that I would talk if they would stop yelling. Days where I day to myself, why even bother with the hardship and better to just let go and move on. Psychologists will tell you that when a person cuts you out of their life or shuts you down in these passive aggressive ways, they suffer from a narcissistic wound. Not understanding what he was really feeling, I took it as a rejection. It's been weeks. I was so happy that a woman I liked invited me somewhere. Our resentment towards each other is extreme and I find having any hope very difficult. The oppression of living with a loved one on the Spectrum is severe. This is in jeopardy now. We have a happy ending, he came back to me and we are still together, he worked through his grief, which was an extremely difficult time for the both of us. His end point was that, this time apart will help me in knowing if I want to be in a relationship with him, as he will not be able to give me what I want in terms empathy, affection etc from that point onwards I started to understand that he has actually taken time to reflect on his behaviour and doesnt want to ruin my life or make me unhappy, as he is not going to be able to change his ways. For the context Aspie is referred to people who has Asperger's, and NT is a person with normal brain. We are equally puzzled by the NT world. As we know, aspies are not the world's best communicators and half of the time they'll be completely unaware that the problem is change resistance. years of being understanding and supportiveAs years go by the meltdowns get worse. Answer (1 of 9): As a 27 year old Autistic man, I can confidently say that I've only felt "true love" once, and it was quite recently. I apologized to him. I say this because it is clear that he is wrong this time. Once the smoke cleared, you tried hard to understand why your partner was so upset. A friend once said one day it will happen again you will gradually become desensitized to it, and just like that you wil realize no more!!! You felt like they were ashamed to be with you. If they were putting on an act for others, were they doing the same with you? Let them knoe that you still love them but that this is not healthy. Aspies don't make eye contact. He has never contacted me again since when he left two and a half years ago. Everything is YOUR fault. I tried silence that did not work then one day he just said we are finished would not speak to me so I left and have filed for an annulment. He has left us for the second time and has discarded me ( as have his family ) after 25 years and 4 children . He doesnt care. He constantly will just get dressed and leave and then come back surprised I got worried about him. I'm so glad I ran across this blog post. But he has to give us a chance, and I dont know how long he will stay away. I found in the limited interaction I now have it is best to be clear, calm and concise about your needs an aspie will not be able to recognize any NT relationship behavior meltdowns by an aspie you love can be so heart breaking but I know now it is best not to react but try to reframe the behavior or come back later with a calm response as reacting emotionally in the moment will spiral the situation. His father had narcissism and was very ugly about my husbands learning disabilities. Am trying to be as patient as I can but hard when it feels like it's only me he's withdrawing from. At home, they werent trying as hard anymore. Since then he pulled away and been mia for a week. I have known him for two years and in the relationship a year. I tried to change the subject, and in a very charming way, she stopped on the sidewalk,looked directly in my eyes, smiled, and asked "do you like me?" I married a man with aspberger I did not understand his lack of emotion until reading about his problem. Reading these posts exemplify what I felt day to day with him. How to confront your Aspie. However your boyfriends behavior is not OK. I have serious concerns that my husband might have Aspergers. For the purpose of this article, I have used the word aspie instead of autistic; however, the two terms should be considered interchangeable in this article. Let me help a little. The reason for this word choice is that most searches about adult autism use the words Aspergers or aspie.. By expressing my feelings to her, she completely backed away. I am so sorry that you are going through this Sarah. Remember love is a conversation, not a transaction. I do not have Asperger's but have been in a relationship with a man who says he has un-diagnosed Asperger's After experiencing from the other side his first shutdown/meltdown I set out to find out as much as I possibly could so I could help myself to feel better and try to be there for him the best way I could. Before, they loved everything that made you different, but now they were trying to change how you dressed and even control how you behaved in social situations. What do I need to do? Nevertheless, I'll try to point out some possibilities. When my partner abuses me, I clearly state that I do not take responsibility for his behaviour. As hard as it is your mental and physical well-being is very important during this time for you to be able to cope. Totally selfish behavior that only revolves around his needs. Please please help me someone. The next morning they were angrier. This is one of the biggest reasons. 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